An Angry Dad Meets a Forgiving God

I will be going to the hospital this Sunday where I weekly seek healing for my body, soul, mind, and spirit.

The sin of a father – What David Moore learned from his father.

I grew up in the 60’s and it was a great time to grow up. We played outside endlessly. My father worked afternoons and with school all day I didn’t see him a whole lot. There were six of us kids and my mom worked tirelessly to take care of us and always gave us tremendous love. Alcoholism in our family was a dirty secret that our family lived with for a long time. My father was not only a casual drinker but also a binge drinker. As children we witnessed our father many times slapping and hitting my mom until she was bloody. It forever affected all of us profoundly.
For many years as a young adult I too was a binge drinker and an angry drunk. It didn’t take long after my first drink that I wanted to fight someone and usually it was for no reason. Although I had a hatred for anyone raising a hand against a woman I took my anger out on men. Bar fights, road rage, you name it I probably did it.
In my late 20’s my son was born and when he was 1-1/2 years old I took custody of him and began raising him as a single father. I wanted to love my son in a way that my father never loved me. I wanted to be there for every school event, sports game, and protect him from the world. I became obsessed and over protective in such a way that he was not being allowed to actually be in control of his own life. I was also still having anger issues and had become a “my way or the highway” type of parent. We need to find a balance in everything we do. I don’t believe that my dad set out to be the father that he became nor did I. But, my behavior towards my son was destructive in its own way.
Then one day my son, a college freshman, disappeared. We had no idea where he was and why he had left. My father had died a few years earlier and it was very hard. The thought of losing a child is indescribable. It is a parent’s worst nightmare. Had the sins of my father turned me into a father that had caused this? And what of my own sins? Can I blame them on my father and not accept responsibility for them?
After a cross-country search for my son without any success I came to the end of myself and cried out to God for help. God gave me a miracle. He came into my heart and saved me. A wave of forgiveness and love poured over me that you cannot understand unless you have experienced it. I asked God to forgive everyone that had ever hurt me including my father. I asked God to forgive me for everyone that I had ever hurt. God through revelation and His word began to teach me how to be a better father and a better man. I am still not the man I want to be but thank God I am not the man I used to be. What I also realized through my surrender was that not only was I looking for my son to come home but God was looking for me to come home too.
My father and mother both received the free gift of salvation through Christ before they died as has my whole family. Jesus died that the sins of a father and everyone else can be forgiven by simply asking Him and accepting Him as our Savior. Christ gives me love, hope, and direction. Not only can I not live without Him, I will not die without Him either.

https://manlytraining.com/2016/06/06/the-sin-of-a-father-what-david-moore-learned-from-his-father/

Lisa Buffalo 

Through the sacrifice, grace and mercy of Jesus Christ, I have been freely given salvation. I have been given the greatest gift imaginable and that gift is offered for all who will come to Jesus.

Because I have been given much, I would like to offer some of what He has given me. I’m offering the e-book version of my books published by John 15:11 Publications for free March 23rd through March 25th on Amazon.
If you are interested, you can go to my Amazon page http://amzn.to/1ULyV0c
The books can be read on your Kindle, e-reader, or computer. Please share with your friends!
Enjoy the blessing, but more importantly if you don’t know Jesus please let me tell you about my amazing Savior! I’ve written a page here –> http://lisabuffaloe.com/good-enough-for-heaven/

I am not at peace because I know God will deliver me, I am at peace because I know God.

Dads in the Limelight – Author of The Father’s Love, David Moore

December 3, 2015 by dadofdivas Leave a Comment

Our 598th Dad in the Limelight is Author of The Father’s Love, David Moore. I want to thank David Moore for being a part of this series. It has been great getting connected with him and now sharing David Moore with all of you.

1) Tell me about yourself, (as well as how you are in the limelight for my readers knowledge)

My name is David Moore. I am retired, a volunteer Chaplain, and married to the love of my life Dorinda. We have 3 adult sons, David, Adam, and Shane. I pray with the sick and the lost in hospitals, nursing homes, prisons and jails, wherever I am called. I am also the author of “The Father’s Love” which is the true story of my cross country search for my missing son David and how I found my faith in God.

2) Tell me about your family 

My wife Dorinda is a secretary and enjoys singing in the choir, working in Helps Ministry writing encouraging cards and at times making meals for those in need. Our sons are all grown and living on their own and working hard to make a good future for themselves and their families.

3) What has been the largest challenge you have had in being a father?

Without a doubt it was when my son disappeared and I went on a frantic search for him. One cannot imagine the pain and heartache of a child that has run away. Everything in your life stops. Nothing else matters, not your job, eating, drinking, even your own life becomes secondary. It is a parents worst nightmare.

4) What advice would you give to other fathers?

Always keep the lines of communication open with your children. Really listen to what they are saying  and try to understand what they are feeling. As parents we always think we know what is best, but our children are very smart and they know better then anyone what their hearts desire is.

5) How have you come to balance parenthood and outside life? 

Our children are grown and my wife and I are really just outside consultants now. We have 3 very intelligent sons and they are very capable. We try to live a life of strong faith and be an example of how God instructs us to live.

6) What have you learned from the fathers that you have interacted with?

My father-in-law is one of the greatest examples that I could ever want to follow. He is an amazing man of faith and the best listener I have ever met. He is very intent on hearing what your heart is saying, what you are really feeling. He always says that God gave us 2 ears and one mouth so we should always listen twice as much as we speak.

7) What else would you share regarding your experiences as a father thus far?

My biggest problem as a father was that I was always a my way or the highway kind of parent. Also, before I starting seeing things from a spiritual perspective I was a very angry person. I had an explosive anger that was dangerous to my family, myself, and others. After receiving Christ as my Savior I became a new person and with His help I have overcome many of my issues. I am not yet who I want to be, but thank God I am not who I used to be!

8) What have been the most memorable experiences that you have had thus far as a parent?

Coaching our sons in sports, watching them graduate high school and college, seeing them become responsible men are all very memorable. But when they accepted Christ as Savior and were baptized has to be the most memorable and important moments in our lives. We now know we will spend eternity together!

If you have any questions for David Moore, please leave a comment here and I will make sure that he gets them so that he may be able to respond!

Also, do you know a Dad in the Limelight? If so, please email me their contact information so that they too can be a part of this series!

Be still, and know that I am God Psalm 46:10

Are you the center of your universe or is God?